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im like the worst football fan, how am i meant to heckle the german players next week when kai havertz is playing and i have a crush on him...
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@ew @neikocat i’m going to grow old with my beautiful wife and there is nothing u can do about it !
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@essie @neikocat lesbianism is a phase
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@neikocat its complicated i’m attracted to men but in a like an objectifying way lol, whereas i’m just regular attracted to women and love them and stuff
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@neikocat thats not to say ive NEVER actually liked a guy like that but as a rule i dont rly
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@essie i thought you were a lesbian lol
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@neikocat honestly i share the struggle i was talking to a norwegian dude who had that look
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@neikocat fair, just saying bro u dont have to go to germany for north face jacket dick!
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@essie dating a German and watching my ancestors spin in their graves lol
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@essie yeah but im basic af what do you expect lol
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@neikocat he’s cute but kinda dime a dozen tbh
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i mean look at him ????????????
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@neikocat @essie common sense reasoning
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@ew @essie @neikocat how is this related to lesbiab?
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@essie @neikocat I'm not worried about you I'm telling you what's going to happen
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@ew @essie how did you manage to acquire the power of a clairvoyant?
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@essie @neikocat no, I said you should stop being a lesbian so you can find a mate that you'll want to settle down with and have babies because that can take many years
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@ew @neikocat plz worry about ur own dick and not the one of my imaginary baby daddy
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@essie @neikocat oh then you definitely don't know wtf you are talking about
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@ew @neikocat you think i, an 18 year old, should be trying to have babies? in this fucking economy?
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@essie @neikocat well you were born and clocks ticking
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@ew @neikocat i’m 18 bro the clock can wait
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@ew @neikocat i have some undiagnosed hormonal issue that means i get a period like once a year + my mum had a bunch of miscarriages so not much to be optimistic ab there lol
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@ew @neikocat i’m probs not even able to have them so shrug
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@essie @neikocat why's that
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@essie @neikocat I don't have to do anything about it, your biological urge to have children will fix it
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@ew well, how is that related to lesbiab thoughlike not being able to have kids kinda sucks yeh, but having a spouse is still pretty great, as is adopting
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@shmibs @essie @neikocat as a woman not procreating doesn't fulfill your biological imperatives, by the time you hit age 32 your looks start to rapidly decline tanking any hope for you finding a suitable partner to have a baby with.
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@shmibs because lesbianism isn't real, women aren't like men where bisexuality is uncommon and they are either 100% straight or 100% gay. their interest depends on the person. adopting doesn't fulfill the biological imperative that birthing a child does (and your hormones change after you do). if you want to be a lesbian go ahead but after a certain amount of time your biological hormones are going to kick in and force you to find a male to procreate with, if you push through that you'll almost certainly live a depressed life
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@ew ok men usually aren't "100% straight or gay" either though, at least have gathered so from the dudes have talked to, bisex tendencies are underestimated in general (and moreso in guys) because of "pick a side" culture. still are apparently some people who are completely fixated though, or at least they've told me they are and had however many decades to prove it by living, soand not being able to have kids isn't the end of everything, like i can't ever because this body is all messed up and broken (and currently trying to eat itself), and sometimes just have to stop and feel sad for a while, but i also really love caring for nephling and love bf and looking forwards to married if we both manage to survive this messand being completely honest, relationship goals here are lesbiab couple who lived 50 years together and adopted became-happy kids and were amazing... up until separated by death because alzheimers, which did not look fun at all, either having to watch loved one fall apart like that or mortality in general, and still-living wife didn't last long after, but grandmother here was the same once grandfather died, motivation to exist just disappears at some point for everyone if they live long enoughbetter to be happy together for 50 years than the garbage mess of panic-marriage-and-divorces all over everywhere now though
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@ew like, of all the people have ever met, have got exactly two reference models for "long and happy marriage until-death-do-us-murder", and one was gay and one was straight
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@shmibs >like i can't ever because this body is all messed up and broken (and currently trying to eat itself)why is that
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@ew idunno, why were you born with a body that functions? (presumably
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@shmibs no one is talking about marriage
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@ew you're talking about "being happy", and a marriage that doesn't suck is kind of requirement for that. no amount of child-having compensates (try asking mother here if having 6 kids magically fixed everything
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@shmibs you don't need to get married to be in a relationship with someone or have a baby
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@ew all three of those things can exist independent from the others, sure. for "being happy", though, they're all generally pretty great for most peoplebaby-having wouldn't be quite so much prerequisite, though, if strong-and-independent singleton western culture was more like supposed history of communal living and child-rearing (one of the big differences in humans compared to chimpanzees, for whom only-the-mother-cares-for-kids is the norm
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@shmibs no but I also exercise and am not fat so I have a body that works as intended
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@ew yeh, prenatal-me should've worked out more and eaten right while in the womb
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@ew single mother is the opposite of communal
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@shmibs that doesn't work because single mother households is what predicts crime